The Loneliness Epidemic: Insights from Robert Putnam
How to deal with loneliness in teens
Isolation and lack of engagement are more common than ever in the post-pandemic world. I recently listened to The New York Times podcast, “The Interview: Robert Putnam Knows Why You're Lonely," which struck a chord with me. Adults today aren't engaging with each other, and this trend has trickled down to younger generations who grew up with social media, exacerbating loneliness in teens.
The alarming trend
As adults, we need to model better behavior for younger generations. Loneliness in teens and isolation have become more prevalent, and the statistics are alarming. In her book iGen, Dr. Jean Twenge noted that even before the pandemic, high school seniors from Generation Z socialized outside the home as much as eighth-graders did in previous generations.
Jonathan Haidt’s book, The Anxious Generation, delves into similar trends. Haidt highlights how the decline in unsupervised outdoor play and the rise of smartphone use have contributed to the increase in mental health issues among teens.
He points out that as children spend more time online and less time engaging in real-world activities, they miss out on crucial opportunities for social development and risk assessment. This "Great Rewiring of Childhood" has led to higher rates of anxiety, depression, and loneliness among young people as they struggle to form meaningful, face-to-face connections.
This shift is evident in fewer adolescents getting their driver's licenses—a rite of passage that once symbolized independence and social freedom.
A shift in college dynamics
In the past, colleges focused on curbing binge drinking and risky behaviors, which was necessary. However, the pendulum has swung too far. Many colleges and universities now struggle to get students out of their dorms to engage with one another. Living in a college town, I'm troubled by its quietness. This isn't because students are studying more; they are isolating themselves. This new normal is just as troubling and arguably more disturbing than the antics of previous generations, further illustrating the issue of loneliness in teens.
Moreover, the impact of these social trends extends beyond the school year. Summer, once a time for growth and learning, has become a period of stagnation. Historically, summer was an opportunity for kids—especially those who struggled academically and socially—to focus on their strengths and gain confidence for the upcoming school year through enriching experiences. Now, many youths spend their summers indoors, rarely leaving their homes and missing out on the self-worth gained from summer jobs, outdoor adventures, and camps.
This absence is a significant concern because those things foster developmental milestones.
Practical tips to deal with isolation and loneliness in teens
My colleague Dr. Stephen Tourjee, MD, offers valuable insights that I wholeheartedly agree with to further address the isolation and lack of engagement among teens and young adults.
Maintain a Structured Routine: Crucial for mental health and development.
Engage in Regular Activities: Part-time jobs, internships, volunteering, and summer courses provide purpose and prevent stagnation.
Encourage Physical Activity: Promotes overall well-being.
Adopt a Healthy Diet: Supports physical and mental health.
Foster Social Connections: Essential for building resilience, confidence, and developmental milestones.
Maintain Mental Health Treatment: Continue regular counseling and medication management.
Encourage Healthy Sleep Patterns: Maintain regular sleep-wake cycles.
Limit Screen Time: Prevent excessive sedentary behavior and isolation.
Promote Summer Learning: Encourage courses and skill-building activities.
These steps can help ensure a productive and enriching summer for your child.
If your child is experiencing loneliness or isolation, don't hesitate to contact Josh Doyle Consulting for support in fostering healthier connections and personal growth.
